Kay Parker Today
Kay Parker is one of the most well known actresses to ever preform in adult film. She is a classic beauty who starred in numerous adult titles during the golden age of porn in the late 70’s and early 80’s. Kay was always known for both her acting ability and sexual prowess. She is most famous for her role in the classic porn flick Taboo and some of its sequels.
I recently caught up with Kay for a short interview to see what she has been up to for all these years. I was pleasantly surprised to find that she is living a very interesting life and had a lot to talk about.
You were born in Birmingham, England. When did you first come to the United States?
I arrived in 1965 after having spent two or more years living in Germany. It had always been a goal to master another language, a goal I fulfilled while I was there.
What was your life like as a child? Where did you grow up?
I grew up post World War 2 in a very cold and depressed England as the country struggled to rebuild after the war. In my memory there were no colors, just grey. I remember food rationing and extreme scarcity. My Father raised us under the banner of “Children should be seen and not heard,” and “Don’t speak unless spoken to.”
Kay Parker early in her career
How did you first become involved in the adult entertainment business?
I met John Leslie who introduced me to Robert McCallum and I took a small non-sex role in “V-The Hot One.”
What factors in your life lead to your decision to perform in adult films?
There were many of which I talk about in my book, but for this interview, suffice it to say that number one, there was a fascination with the art of film-making and number two, a deeply rooted yearning to get free, to peel off my layers and to know myself. I saw this as an opportunity to do that.
What did you like best about performing in front of the camera?
I had spent a year in an intense acting workshop prior to meeting John and this was an opportunity to put my tools to use, as it were. So, there was great satisfaction in performing and portraying characters for me.
Any favorite actors you enjoyed working with more than others?
Several of the men I worked with were real gentlemen, including Eric Edwards and Herschel Savage, John Leslie of course and the incomparable Richard Pacheco.
Sometime in the mid-80’s you gave up performing in adult films. Can you tell us what the reasons were behind your decision to quit performing?
There were several factors, my age (even though I could have continued, I opted out,) and of course, the AIDS epidemic. Beyond those reasons, the video age had arrived, film budgets had dropped, and videos were being shot in one or two days and were just sex scenarios. The industry I had known, where we shot on film, had lengthy scripts and multiple takes of a scene with room to develop characters disappeared. I couldn’t bring myself to participate any longer. It was time to leave.
Kay Parker
I also have read that you directed one title before leaving the adult business for good, Tantric Guide to Sexual Potency, in 1994. What was it like to be on the other side of the camera and why did you not continue to direct?
Yes, this was a project that I cared for because of the content. I had always been concerned with putting love back into sex – this was in fact my logo during those years. In Tantra – which is the yoga of sex, the emphasis is on breathing and the focus is on divine union through sexual interaction. The focus on the orgasm is diminished opening up the space for a deep spiritual union which can be transcendental and beautiful beyond words. I didn’t continue to direct because it was time for me to get on with my other work…my counseling and spiritual mentoring work.
Do you have any regrets about your career in adult film?
No regrets – I see every experience as an opportunity and, within that notion, higher purpose prevails. In life, it’s important to see the bigger picture, as if looking at the tapestry of all the events in our lives and their outcome from a higher vantage point. This is challenging for most people, but through choosing to see the bigger picture, one has the opportunity to move out of any semblance of martyr or victim consciousness.
Do you keep in touch with any people from the adult industry? Any actors, producers or directors?
I keep in touch with a few, those I had a heart connection with…Seka, Mr. Pacheco, Veronica Hart and Kelly Nichols.
When did you first become involved in new age philosophy?
I began to pursue my belief in an alternative reality and way of life over 30 years ago when I lived in Northern California and during the time of my film career.
Briefly explain in general what you belief system is all about.
It’s simple, take care of yourself, and take care of others and the environment. Beyond that, know who you are as a divine being, as a soul having a human experience on a path which is eternal and focus on that, as opposed to the status quo.
You believe in re-incarnation of the soul. Tell us more about that.
That’s way too lengthy to talk about here. Suffice it to say that each of us is on a journey that extends way beyond this lifetime. In order to understand this, one has to move beyond fear, doubt, trepidation and our experiences in our lifetime which have wounded us.
Kay Parker
I have had roughly 186 lifetimes in this quadrant of time. While I have documented many of them, there are particular lifetimes that are highly significant and relevant to the here and now. When I work with individuals I am focused on that aspect of their past – what is relevant to a person’s current life experiences and challenges.
For me, the main focus has been on deep forgiveness of “perceived errors of the past” and releasing those memories, in addition to the realization of the fulfillment of commitments made long ago to be here now and to participate in what truly is a monumental time on our planet and humanity’s transition.
I read a little bit about “star beings” on your website. What is a star being?
There are a certain number of individuals alive today (in the millions) who have experienced life on other planets before incarnating here. To some way of thinking they are the proverbial “old souls” because they have in fact, had a longer journey than newer souls, culminating here, now. In terms of their soul contract, they are committed to applying themselves in a very significant way to our planet’s evolution. They will, at some point, wake-up to their soul essence and recognize their true identify, instead of just plodding along, submitting to the conditioning of the cultural, societal and familial mores.
What kind of services do you offer via your website, http://www.starsourceonline.com/
I am a spiritual mentor, meaning that I work with an individual to assist them to recognize their mission and to assist in the healing of their emotional scars, to help them to put their life circumstances in perspective and assist them to move out of guilt, shame, fear, hopelessness, indifference and a multitude of other emotional limitations and/or blocks.
What could someone expect that purchases services on your website? What type of person should be interested in a session with you?
First of all, they may expect to be surprised. I say that because, for me, my work is ultimately about love – and offers a person the opportunity to open their hearts to a more elevated way of being where love takes precedence, where love is the guiding force and where love opens doors never opened before. If a person wants to experience that, and is willing to grow in terms of loving themselves by taking the first step towards healing and balancing their past, their life may change in ways that may be extraordinary. Key word here is choice, a person must first choose.
Having been an adult actress for several years, sexuality has played a major role in your adult life. How does sexuality factor in to your belief system and does it continue to play a major role?
Sexuality has played a role for me in terms of opening doors to my true work, here, now. From my career came a wealth of information about sexuality and, more specifically, a deep understanding of the dynamics of sexual shame. Back when I was acting, the Internet didn’t exist and I couldn’t possibly have known that I would have a website and a global doorway to making available my services. In my personal life it’s a very, minor issue.
Taboo
You wrote a book in 2001 titled, Taboo: Sacred, Don’t Touch, please tell the readers what the book is about and where they can purchase the book.
I wrote the book (which I began 10 years before I published it) at the urging of others. In public presentations and lectures, I had used anecdotal stories from my career to illustrate what I had learned, not only about myself, but about the entire area of sexuality. It seemed only natural that a biographical book should follow, but when it came down to it, to be true to myself, I had to tell the whole story – the bigger picture – and that meant including past lives. This is why I subtitled the book “A Biographical Journey spanning Six Thousand years.” The book is available in audio (read by me) or text form on my website www.starsourceonline.com . At the moment, I don’t have hard copies available.
Are you currently married or have you ever been married?
No and No.
Do you have any children?
No.
Where do you live?
I live in southern California, outside Los Angeles
Outside of your beliefs and profession what do you like to do for fun? What are your hobbies or interests?
I am a movie buff and I love good music. I love to walk and enjoy the wonderful Pacific Ocean. All my other activities relate in some way to my work, which is my life.
Is there anything you would like to say to your fans?
I am always in awe of the generosity of my fans. Each time someone connects with me, I am grateful. I encourage you to not be shy about learning more about who you are, to embrace their higher purpose and to be willing to deeply connect to your soul’s mission. I’m here to help. If my assistance can make the difference between a life lived with quality and meaning, fulfillment and passion, I encourage you to make the investment. Blessings.
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Kay Parker early in her career
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